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God has a plan for each and every one of us. In his plan is a perfect time for every thing. That timing may not work out with what our time line is for things. Trying to figure out God's timing verses our timing - may be just one challenge we face in trying to figure out God's plan for our lives.
We seek God for many things; guidance, our calling, a heart for Him, to be this to be that, but have you ever prayed for God to give you patience? Best advice - Never pray for Patience! Whenever I have ever prayed for patience it seems the world around me gears up a few notches and things just get out of control. The kids are acting up, things around the house start to fall apart, whatever could go wrong does, and things I never expected happen at the least likely of times! Isn't that just how life is? Patience is certainly one of the fruits of the Spirit that I have struggled with. Although, I believe that the older I get - the more patient I become. I was kidding about the don't pray for patience comment.... but I will say, be careful what you pray for!
Think of the times - for me it's Christmas - where you couldn't wait for something. I couldn't wait to open my presents. I even remember more than once sneaking peaks at my presents while they were so neatly wrapped under the tree. I would know what my presents were before I opened them - and then - when it was Christmas Day and I opened them, that excitement of opening the presents was gone. Some times I was even disappointed because I may have not gotten what I wanted.
In life, our lives can sometimes be that way. We end up with outcomes that we didn't hope for. The timing of things isn't quite right and we think, "why didn't that happen earlier or when I wanted," or "why couldn't I have had that and not this." Sometimes if we would just be able to wait and be patient, the rewards would be so much greater than we could ever expect.
Patience is certainly something to really think about. Something difficult to understand how to gain it and something hard to implement into our lives at times. I hope that this week you will have your eyes and ears open to what God wants you to work on with regards to being patient in HIS timing.
I enjoyed preparing for this chapter and I chuckled as my world around me got really crazy and I thought, "of course these things are going to happen, I am working on patience." As I prepared my notes for this study it just so happened that my patience was tested. I was at the Emergency Room for some back pain. As I was just about to be called in (after waiting for an hour and a half already) a nurse came and told me a critical patient just came in and it was going to be a while longer. I thought, "of course it is going to be longer for me to wait." I then said a prayer for that patient and I thanked God for the opportunity He had provided me to work more on this chapter.
Liz gave some good insight on patience in this chapter. I love the line where she says, "I don't know what it is about parenthood, but inevitably it tests even the best-intended." She then shares a story of a mom who had two daughters in the car fighting about a barbie and she warns them that if they don't stop the barbie is going out the window. As the girls continued the mom grabs the barbie and chucks her out the window as they continue down the road. I laughed thinking I could totally relate to that. I have a 10 year old and a three year old and they argue about everything. They are constantly yelling and yet it comes down to it that the three year old just wants so much to play with his older brother and his older brother is nice when he is okay with playing with him, but when he doesn't want to play anymore things are out of control. Then I hear, "mom, get him out of my room."
I also enjoyed the stories that Liz shares of the newspaper that printed about patience that had run it's course for some parents. Here were some of the stories:
A mom had ignored her three year old because she thought he was fantasizing when he said a "birdie" lived in his room. One evening she walked in to discover a bat circling over the bed.
A mother became impatient and insisted her child stop yelling for her from across the house and come into the kitchen to tell her what was wrong. The child showed up a few minutes later. dripping wet. "I fell in the toilet," she wailed.
An exhausted mother let her sleepless child "cry it out" through the night. At about 2 am the wailing stopped. When the mom came into the room at day-break, the one year old was asleep on the crib rail, one leg dangling on each side.
Can you relate to any of these stories - do they remind you of those times that your patience wore thin and yet you discovered that your kids really needed something from you? I can.
So, what causes us to be impatient? Liz shares that it's because we want to be first. First in line, first on the job, first to be waited on. Patience will only grow as we learn to content ourselves with last place.
She says that patience is a word that seems more about stillness and waiting than taking action. A state of patience can require great acts of trust, self-control, and humility. One story in the bible that reflects this is the story of Hannah. A woman who was barren for many years. She trusted the Lord and was patient and prayed for a child. She did end up with a son after many many years of waiting. She named him Samuel. Her patience and trust were richly rewarded.
What kinds of things are you waiting for or have you waited for? What would be on your list and how would you rate your patience level with each one? What are those things or areas that set you off? Is it traffic? Drivers that cut you off? Work? Kids? Spouse?
What does patience look like? In the dictionary we find that patience means the ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay; quiet, steady perseverance, even-tempered care.
Here are some bible references regarding scripture and some things to think about:
Psalm 40
I waited patiently for the Lord to help me, and he turned me and heard my cry.
We must wait patiently in prayer for God to do HIS work in us. God's timing is perfect. Some times we may have to wait much longer than we anticipated or even hoped.
Habakkuk 2:3
If it seems slow, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed.
We develop patience as we learn to understand the Lords plans for us. If we didn't have to wait we may never learn the need to develop patience for things.
Hebrews 6:12
Imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.
1 Corinthians 13:4
Love is patient and kind.
Patience is one of the evidences of love. These fruits work together and if you have one, chances are you probably have signs of another!
2 Corinthians 6:4,6
As servants of God we commend ourselves in every way; in purity, understanding, patience and kindness; in the Holy Spirit and in sincere love.
1 Thessalonians 5:14
Encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone.
We need to learn to be patient with those around us. Showing patience to others helps them see Christ through you!
Romans 8:25
If we look forward to something we don't have yet, we must wait patiently and confidently.
We wait eagerly to inherit what God has promised to us as His children. We haven't received His full and complete gift to us. We wait, and while we wait, we have something to look forward to. This isn't it. There is more that God has in store for us! We have something to look forward to. It is our job to wait patiently for the time that we will receive God's full and complete gift to us.
Lamentations 3:25-26
The Lord is good to those who depend on him, to those who search for him. So it is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord.
James 5:10-11
For examples of patience in suffering, dear brothers and sisters, look at the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. We give great honor to those who endure under suffering. For instance, you know about Job, a man of great endurance. You can see how the Lord was kind to him at the end, for the Lord is full of tenderness and mercy.
I believe that when we suffer trials in our lives we truly begin to understand endurance and patience. There are many things I believe we can all think of, things that we wanted immediately, outcomes we wanted now, things that were truly hard to wait for. I believe if you truly think you would be able to come to one or more times where God's plans did not happen in the time that you had hoped for. I believe it is in these times where we truly are stretched to build that patience and to really trust in God's plan and put our agenda aside.
As hard as it may be at times, God's timing may not be our timing, and learning to trust in His time and His plan instead of ours is certainly worth learning how to do. Just as Liz shared Hannah's story with us, you too may be richly rewarded for your patience and endurance.
Jesus is our ultimate role model for patience. While he was on earth he showed patience - even when those around him were persecuting him and doubting him. Jesus never gave up on his followers no matter how much they messed up - no matter how self centered they could be.
Liz says, "It's encouraging to know that he is just as patient with us as we take our faltering and sometimes baby steps in our own life journey."
So how do we become patient? How do we allow the Holy Spirit to produce and grow this Fruit in our lives?
First we must submit our agendas over to the Lord. He has our plan. He knows the timing in His plan. Whatever it is we are looking for answers for we must surrender to Him.
Things we can think about are:
Why are we in such a hurry? Is it because we have been taught that we can have it now? Is it that we feel we deserve things? Our desires take over and we can't wait for what it is we want right now?
What are those things that trigger us to lose our patience? Think about those triggers and think about ways in which you can learn to not let those triggers get you. If it is traffic and drivers - then the next time you encounter someone that cuts you off - instead of reacting to it - let it go - think that that person must really need to be somewhere and thank goodness you are not in as big a hurry. Next time your kids start acting up - instead of resorting to yelling and screaming - take some time to figure out what is truly going on with them, figure out what they need, and give them the patience required to teach them to behave.
Take time this week to be observant. Watch for those times that God has given for you to be stretched in this area of patience. Pray for your eyes to be open and your heart to be willing to work on being patient.
First Love
by Goapele
album: Change It All
As summer was ending, you were walking in
it seemed my life was falling
but in this season we were friends
Six days into spring, is where our story begins
you didn't rush a thing,but you knew you would win
I never thought you'd be the only one
I dreamt of fairytales, that's how we begun
But I was waiting for some magical moment,
that would prove to me, forever would be fine
mean while my first love was standing first in line...
One of the first times I didn't feel alone,
is when I was in your arms, you always made me feel at home
We watched the sunrise, cause the night had sliped away
and from then until now, we've been through some different phases
But you love the winter, love the challenge, always managed to think that we would make it
I never thought you'd be the only oneI dreamt of fairytales, that's how we begun
But I was waiting for some magical moment,
that would prove to me, forever would be fine mean
while my first love was standing first in line...
So let me get used to things, 'cuz gradual's my name
I don't dive into the cold, I get in slow, but every day
I'm making peace with loving you, peace with being me
Any pieces of us - I claim them all today
I never thought you'd be the only oneI dreamt of fairytales, that's how we begun
But I was waiting for some magical moment,
that would prove to me, forever would be fine mean
while my first love was standing first in line...
Was standing first in line...
trying to do homework
At Midnight
At Midnight
Elder Marquis Boone
People of God, adversity comes in many shapes forms and fashions. These perplexing, confusing, and mystifying predicaments show up at the most inconvenient and awkward times in our lives, and the frustrating thing is that adversity does not need an invitation to enter your home.
One moment life appears to be serene, calm, peaceful and quiet; then the next moment we find ourselves caught in the middle of the storm. For some of us life is just one storm after another.
One of the strange things about this season is that it seems like it is lasting forever. One of the purposes God has for our lives is that we grow to maturity in our faith in Him and not in stuff or in people. You know your faith is maturing by what you do and how you act during your storm and in your problem.
"And when they had laid many stripes on them, they threw them into prison, commanding the jailer to keep them securely. Having received such a charge, he put them into the inner prison and fastened their feet in the stocks. But at midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them. Suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the foundations of the prison were shaken; and immediately all the doors were opened and everyone's chains were loosed. And the keeper of the prison, awaking from sleep and seeing the prison doors open, supposing the prisoners had fled, drew his sword and was about to kill himself. But Paul called with a loud voice, saying, "Do yourself no harm, for we are all here." Acts 16:23-28 (NKJV)
Here in the book of Acts we find a story about the Apostle Paul and Silas who find themselves in what seems to be a storm. Paul & Silas were called by God to take the gospel into the region of Macedonia. However, when they got there, instead of wide open doors, like they might have expected, they ran into a season of opposition!
They are locked up and in chains because they were at the place God wanted them to be, doing the very thing God told them to do. What I love about Paul and Silas is that they still had faith in God. The text does not say they were crying and angry but that they were praying and singing praises.
This is my favorite part of the text, it says "but at midnight". I know you have heard people say that midnight is the darkest hour and it's when you're at your lowest, but what I want to point out here is that midnight is also a transition period. It is the transition from an old day to a new day. It can confuse you because when you think of transition you think of a sudden, rapid change.
Midnight transition is very minute because nothing really changes but the time. I want you today to put all your faith in God no matter how it looks my sister and no matter what they say my brother. Don't allow the code red to detour you because there is a transition about to take place in your life but you have to trust God.
Remember you are where He wants you to be. It's not time to put your faith in the things you see but put to your faith in the God who holds you in His hand.
Elder Marquis Boone is the Youth Pastor and Director of R.A.W. (Real Anointed Worshippers) at New Mercies Christian Church
just a little daily devotion...
If you have been keeping up with current events, you know that the story told by the media is very bleak. Unemployment numbers are at an all time high, crime is on the rise, marital relationships are deteriorating, the financial institutions and auto companies are failing, and life threatening diseases are killing millions of people...
One could find themselves depressed, panicky, stressed and overwhelmed if they allowed these reports to rule their lives. And what's unfortunate is that the church sometimes seems to be just as scared right now as the world. Which brings me to the question of where or in whom does your faith lay?
"For we walk by faith, not by sight" 2 Corinthians 5:7
If your faith is built on worldly institutions - than yes, you should be running to the hills fearing for your life. But if you have built your faith in God than your head should still be hung high as you confidently go through each day knowing God is in control.
Now I am not foolish enough to think that we won't sometimes get discouraged and that worry may not creep up and rear its ugly head - but when those times come - we must seek God maybe like we have never done before to get through those times. God knows that our faith will sometimes be shaken up ...He just wants you to take that first baby step ...
"If you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, 'move from here to there,' and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you." Matthew 17:20
Have you seen the size of a mustard seed? It's super tiny! So don't throw in the towel because you can't seem to muster up an overwhelming amount of faith... walk in the little bit you may have ... and as you continue to seek God's face and direction - your faith will continue to grow.
It's just like a flower, you have to water it and nurture it in order to cultivate it. And there is no better time than the present to start (or continue) that process. Do it and watch God honor your commitment.
"But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him." Hebrews 11:6
power of prayer...
Rest in Peace Michael Jackson
There are still no details on what caused the cardiac arrest or supposed heart attack. He arrived to the hospital in a deep coma.
Michael was planning for his 50 sold out shows in London. I’m literally at a loss for personal words right now. L.A. Times has the latest credible updates.
R.I.P. to the King of Pop.
just a few steps away....thats all...
Jesus came so that each of us could know and understand God in a personal way. Jesus alone can bring meaning and purpose to life.
Accepting Jesus means believing that Jesus is the Son of God, who he claimed to be, then inviting him to guide and direct our lives.12 Jesus said, "I came that you might have life, and have it more abundantly."13
And here is Jesus' invitation. He said, "I'm standing at the door and I'm knocking. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in."14
How will you respond to God's invitation?
I Love, You Love
Hush my baby, don’t you cry.
I'll dry your eyes. Fulfill your heart's desire.
Let's go in. Try again.
Careful this time, broken promises linger in our mind.
I'll give in completely. Hearts break so easy.
I know. Believe me. Oh, I've tried.
But my arms can hold you. My kisses console you.
I'll come and love you tonight.
And I...
I love, I love, I love
Love hurts sometimes
but this feels right.
You...
You love, you love, you love
though you've been burned
You still return.
Come and share my house, my home, and all I own.
I'd love to give to you.
Aren't you tired of going along this lonely road?
It takes its toll on you.
Give me your emotion, your heart's devotion.
Give anything you like.
And I'll give understanding. Life's so demanding.
I'm all you need to get by.
And I...
I love, I love, I love
Love hurts sometimes
But this feels right.
And you...
You love, you love, you love
though you've been burned
you still return.
I love, I love, I love
Love hurts sometimes
but this feels right.
and you...
You love you love you love
though you've been burned
you still return.
Still return
Still return to love
Keep coming back to love
What is Natural Hair?
Okay I've been trying to get it together and wake early no later than 9am in the morning so I go to sleep no later than 11pm. As I was turning off the light, and I literally hop in the bed I did myself channel surf before I shut it down completely. As I seen Tyra on T.V I wanted to see what they were talking about, and it was absolutely something that needed to be on T.V today.
The show was about "What Is Good Hair"
In the African-American community, "good hair" often refers to hair that's not kinky, coarse or short. For me I have this thing for short hair, I can't seem to just go through with growing my hair out. Even though my hair is short I do get perms, but looking at the youtube videos about going natural more and more has giving me inspiration to start my transition I will keep a promise to this blog and myself that I will go natural. I haven't had a perm since late March, and usually it takes a few months or new growth for some people about 5-6 months. Then the natural stage will start, and chop that mess off.
Here is a video of a young lady that started her transition into natural.
HERE's SOME HISTORY just in case you don't know. ((copied and paste from: Encyclopedia of Hair))
African Americans faced discrimination on every front, including negative attitudes about their appearance. In the colonies and later the U.S, standards for "attractiveness" were based on white European looks…light skin tones and straight or gently wavy hair, along with fine-boned, delicate features for women. To further dehumanize African people, white sometimes referred to their hair as "wool," as though it belonged to animals rather than people.
Faced with these obstacles, scalp diseases, and hard labor in the hot sun, many slaves shaved their heads or cut their hair short, wearing a hat outdoors. Women often used cast-off fabrics to make scarves or kerchiefs that covered their heads and gave some protection against the sun. Slaves expected to work in the home stayed neat in clean. Male slaves sometimes wore wigs like their white masters or a hairstyle that resemble white styles, while females house slaves braided and plaited their hair.
African women with long, wavy hair faced another threat: if a white mistress was jealous of a house slave, the mistress forced the slave to cut off her hair, making her less attractive…Slaves devised hair care tools, such as using wool carding tools to comb through tangles. Men used axle grease as both a dye and hair relaxer…Butter, goose grease, and other kitchen fats were used to moisturize dry hair. Sometimes after applying the fat, women styled their hair into curls with a heated butter knife. Flooded with messaes that straight fair was more attractive then tight curls, some African Americans, including slaves and freedom, tried concoctions designed to relax their hair.
Lighter-skinned blacks with straighter hair, along with white society, perpetuated the idea that tightly coiled or kinky hair was "bad" and was a "problem" that should be fixed if possible. After slavery was abolished in the 1860's some African Americans still continued to straighten their hair not just to conform with mainstream styles but also to avoid the mistreatment and legal and social discrimination that came with being nonwhite
((more of this article can be found at this site))
Some quotes…
"The best mirror is an old friend." --George Herbert
Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces.-- Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Life is a beautiful struggle- Talib Kweli
"The Lord has turned all our sunsets into sunrise."
"Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work." –Aristotle
"Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you." -- Elbert Hubbard
Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true.-Napoleon Hill
"A faithful friend is the medicine of life." -- Apocrypha
"I love being married. It's so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life." - Rita Rudner
"If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?" - unknown
Struggling, impatient, and restless without Technology..
24-hrs in a day
168 hrs in a week…you do the math…lol I believe it’s more than 14 weeks straight of watch T.V. That’s about 2 months of non-stop distractions. And I think it’s probably more because my phone is by my side every day.
Struggling, impatient, and restless without Technology!
I just adore Oprah’s shows I will admit I’ve been slacking, but now that its summer I’m back on track. Anyways today Oprah had a show: What can you live without experiment- “If you wanted to bring more meaning to life…what are you willing to take out” A lot of people today are literally caught up with the chaotic distraction of technology, and little things that simply take away from their everyday lives. It might be weird of me to say, but I don’t blame them. It’s become a little hard to do certain things without technology. If we try to connect with friends, emailing your job, going to eat at restaurants, and simply communicating with loved ones it manly gets done with the help of technology. But why is that, I seem to ask myself that every day. Back in the day we didn’t have anything, I remember walking to my friends house, and sometimes living disappointed because she couldn’t play…lol then thinking I walked this whole way for nothing (remember that)…lol. Recently my boyfriend broke up with me, but don’t get me wrong I fine, but at first it was so hard for me to let him go I will admit.
After dwelling for a while…lol I realized once you get so attached to something (or someone) you seem to get molded, or accustomed to it. It’s an un-explainable force that literally controls us. It wasn’t until I asked him to do me a favor, and he said sure, I simply asked him if he cannot respond to any of my text or phone calls. It wasn’t because I was cutting him off forever but I was cutting off the layers of myself that wasn’t happy, I was miserable , and sad because of the breakup so I wanted to start fresh and I also wanted to get a better understanding of myself. SO that’s basically what happened to these families, they let go of certain things that were keeping them away from life.
Son, father, mother, and daughter from Chicago IL, and 2 sons, daughter, mother, and father (not really sure where they were from)
Oprah asked two families to be stripped of everything that was distracting them form spending time with their family. They couldn’t eat out at restaurants they had to fully cook their meals. The dad in the first family was bugging out at the grocery store he threw a fit because he couldn’t watch T.V, and it was just a few hours after giving their things away it was the funniest thing to me...lol Also the daughter in the first family lashed out at the father because she had to sit and read a book instead of texting on the phone with friends. If you seen it you would have been laughing too. The family started to commit time together after day two. Even though this experiment was hard for them they were asked to extend for 7 more days. They said the first week was an experiment, but the second week will be the real challenge so they did it. The son said he became grateful for the little things that his family did for him and also the time with him.
The second family in this case it was the mother that is disconnected from the family. Growing up she was deprived from a lot, and is scared to go back to that life. Unaware of the situations in their own home they all seem to go to other rooms alone like many of us today DO! Taking a closer and personal look with herself (mother of the second family) she realized that listening to the music and being on the computer it has literally taking was herself way from her kids (the therapy really wasn’t therapy) 10 things were asked by this family everyday to be taken out the home.
-simplifying your life. It’s not about getting more things it’s about being happy without. Mother of the Second family.
Carpe Diem
I usually wake up sometimes on good days and will send a mass text to everyone I know, and it’snothing to big it’s all just all a part of my randomness. I wanted to text GOOD MORNING…..SEIZE THE DAY! I got back a few text messages that said “Carpe Diem” its Latin. This summer 2009 I want to enjoy every moment of it I want to enjoy what makes me…me. Every summer I seem to always be on a journey of discovery, and I know that’s not a bad thing but I’m not the one to wait. So I thought if I just live and be patience, but enjoy myself for the now then maybe my revaluation on life will appear.
PURPOSE In LIFE
If you aggressively seek God and his ways and really demand that you be shown what it is he wants you to do, you'll find it. Its closer than you think, you might already be filling his purpose, but not see it. Revelation comes by Discovery by Searching
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